This Body Turning 50.  The Raw Truth About It.

This Body Turning 50. The Raw Truth About It.

I don't normally post selfies on my blog.  I save the occasional selfie for Facebook or Instagram.  But as I'm facing some personal hurdles and pondering the path of my life's mission, I found myself staring in the mirror... a lot more lately.  Usually in my underwear (not the Victoria Secret's kind, but the kind you wear under a t-shirt or workout gear). This started about 2 1/2 years ago.  I'm not sure if it was to boost my self-esteem or to self-scrutinize this body who's main vocation and avocation have been teaching fitness for well over 20 years.   But there I was looking in the mirror, staring at this body that has put in years of hard work, pain and sacrifice. "For what?" I keep asking myself.  "Was it worth it?" I wonder.  If only you knew what I've given up just to look in the mirror and say, "not bad... but there's still room for improvement." Fitness for me became an obsession and an addiction (it could've been worse, right?).  It wasn't always that way though.  I used to play music (bass guitar), go to clubs to see great bands and hang out 'til sunrise with my friends.  I never even intended to be a fitness professional for more than a couple of years as a side hustle and for the fun of it.  My plan was to follow my degree in Media.  You know how to make God laugh?  Tell him your plans!  I worked in video production and TV news and loved it.  But the obsession with fitness won out (just like addictions often do).  And...

Are You in Love With a Narcissist?

I'm thrilled to be part of the Broad.Life team where I'll be sharing my expertise on the topics of health, fitness and wellness.  Although I'm not a psychologist, narcissism and living with them is a topic I'm all too familiar with.  My mom was a pretty textbook case.  My maternal grandparents, who also brought me up, had many of the traits as well.  Ergo, my understanding of healthy relationships was pretty eff'd up!  I've read a lot of psychology articles on narcissism and had my fair dose of therapy.  Here's what I've learned about narcissism in a post I wrote for the Broad.Life. What is a narcissist? Remember the story of Narcissus, the hunter who fell so in love with his refection in a pool he couldn’t tear himself away and eventually died (of starvation, I assume)? If you don’t remember that story from Greek mythology, just go to Facebook or Instagram and see who has the most daily selfies and updates. Or turn on most any reality show and you’ll get the concept of narcissism. Why is it bad to be a narcissist? Self-love, confidence and charm are all aspirational characteristics. But, an inflated sense of importance, an insatiable need for admiration and a lack of empathy are signs of possible trouble. Narcissism is a personality disorder that can have deleterious effects on your personal life, work and finances. Like all personality disorders, there are levels of severity. While everyone can be self-centered, callous, dismissive and even a little arrogant at times, severe narcissists present these traits persistently. And they set the bar when it comes to double standards....
What We Think About People Who Wear Make Up to the Gym

What We Think About People Who Wear Make Up to the Gym

For regular gym-goers it’s fairly common to notice someone’s cool new mesh cut out leggings and say, “love those new leggings, who makes them?” Or compliment someone’s new Nike kicks which pair perfectly with the season’s hottest colors. Athleisure wear is officially high fashion these days and is gregariously discussed. But when it comes to make up at the gym, well that’s a whole other story. I have rarely, if ever, heard a woman say, “great shade of red lipstick, is it MAC?” while grabbing a set of dumbbells off the rack. Even though make up falls under the umbrella of fashion, when it comes to wearing it at the gym, it’s not a topic as openly discussed as the latest pair of Lulu’s. Actually, it’s somewhat controversial as I learned by reading a long string of comments on Reddit where one woman started a thread by saying she goes to the gym after work with a full face of make up and coiffed hair. She queried other female Redditors: “Dose it bother you or do you ever have snippy thoughts or comments about women who do this? Ive always wondered!” I admit, in my teens and 20’s, I would not have walked out the door without my make up on. I truly felt naked without it. But I was much less secure with myself and had much more time on my hands then. By the time I was 30, make up was something I only put on to go anywhere other than to workout. One day I was looking at a student of mine who’s in her 20’s,...